Just over five years ago, my husband lost his job. The company he had been working at for a whole lot of years shuffled, reorganized and as a result, Chad entered the ranks of the unemployed. At the time, the news was pretty devastating, not as much from a financial standpoint, as from an emotional standpoint. Chad received a severance package so we knew that we’d be able to pay the bills until he found something else.
Here’s the thing. For a long time, Chad had been waking up in the mornings, not really looking forward to going into work. There were many things about his job he enjoyed. He liked his co-workers. He liked the work, but the morale had been dropping steadily. Favouritism, negative managers, unclear expectations and a focus on evading questions and issues was turning his work environment toxic. Looking back, Chad now realizes that losing his job was one of the best things that happened to him. It forced him to refocus and he is now working for another company that in many ways is the direct opposite of the place he used to work at.
There are many people that stay in jobs they are not suited for because it provides them a safety net. There are many people that stay in toxic environments because it’s better than nothing. They continue to look desperately for the small gleam of light behind the cloud. I’m all for trying to find the positive, but when the safety net is in fact an anchor, it’s time to let go.
I have also been in the same boat as my husband and many others. I realized that my safety net was actually an anchor, holding me back from reaching my goal. Anchors hold us back from exploring all the possibilities and opportunities. It’s very easy to talk ourselves into believing our anchor is actually a safety net, but I’m here to tell you, when the anchor is finally gone, it’s amazing what a sense of freedom you feel.
It is September, which to me, even though I am long past my school days, continues to signify a new start, new opportunities and a time of change. Take a look at your safety net and if it’s really an anchor, pull it up, make change and sail off in a new direction.