When I think back on my childhood, I received a lot of of messages that told me who I needed to be in order to be a good person, a successful person; messages that clearly told me what I needed to do in order to be accepted, to be right, to be normal.
I lived those message for many years; not because I believed all of them (I did believe, and still believe, some of them) but because it was easier to follow them than to take the time to get to know what I believed. It’s hard to breathe when you are living someone else’s life. With bills to pay, children who rely on us, the comforts that come with the world’s definition of success, it can be difficult, if not seemingly impossible, to live your life, fully, completely on your own terms.
I get that. Most people get that. So … if right now, you are feeling trapped in a life that is not your own, first figure out what you want your life to be and then put together a plan to get there … one step at a time. It’s not always about making a huge leap. Sometimes it’s about taking one small step.