Living our life to it’s full potential, enjoying deep, meaningful personal relationships and business success, whatever that definition of success is, is much more likely to happen when we live a congruent life. So what does that mean? To me, it means two things:
One: Practicing what you preach.
Our children won’t listen when we tell them it’s wrong to steal if we then turn around and bring home office supplies. They won’t listen to us telling them to follow their dreams if we have none of our own.
Our employees won’t listen when we tell them to treat co-workers with respect if we then turn around and chastise someone publicly for an error. They will stop answering our questions if we never respond or act on any of their suggestions. There is no point in telling others not to gossip if we love to participate in rumour-fests.
Two: Living your values and your beliefs
Many of us live lives that are expected of us, as opposed to living our life our way. We live the lives our parents, our friends or our boss suggests as being the right path.
I spent a good part of my adult years trying hard to be the person I thought other people wanted me to be. Many of the decisions I made were made to please someone else; they were not made to help me move towards my personal or my professional goals. In reality, I didn’t have my own personal or professional goals. I only had what I assumed were other people’s expectations of who I should be. There was only one person responsible for that life – me and no one else.
I spent many years in a career that I simply did not find fulfilling. I was good at what I did and enjoyed some success and yet, it was never enough. I felt like I was on a constant search for something missing. It wasn’t until I took the time to identify what my core values were, to know what was truly important to me, not to anyone else, that I was able to create a life plan based on me. The journey is on-going, there are moments, days when I fall into the old habit of taking the easy way out. Those moments happen less often, mainly because the better I understand myself, the easier it is to make choices in harmony with my values and my beliefs.
The Benefits of Living a Life of Congruency
When you clearly understand what your values are, what you believe in and what is important to you, you are more confident; you face the day with eagerness, energy and passion. That confidence, eagerness and passion draw people to you. Think about it. Don’t you like to spend time with people just like that? Others feel the same way.
Your genuineness, your honesty and your integrity generates feelings of trust in the people around you. When people trust you, they want to do business with you, they are more willing to listen to and act on ideas and suggestions you share; they are more willing to listen period.
Living a life of congruency means being brave enough to find out who we really are, what we believe in and then having the courage to get rid of the old and embrace new possibilities.
Are you living a life in harmony with your own uniqueness? What are some things you do to bring congruency to your personal and professional life?