“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the end of strings that somebody else pulls.” – Howard Thurman
We are constantly bombarded with messages telling us what we need to do or be in order to be successful, with success generally measured by the size of our jeans, the value of our home and the stuff we fill our homes with, the make and model of the car we drive, and the number of people who show up at a party we throw.
My daughter recently said to me that by today’s definition of success, she will never be successful. My response to her was that she needed to create her own definition of success and then pursue that. That holds true for her, that holds true for me and that holds true for each and every one of us. There are too many people striving to fulfill someone else’s idea of success. There is nothing wrong with striving for the corner office; just don’t strive for it because someone told you that you should.
In order to be successful, in business and in life, you need to know what success means to you. What are your values? What do you hold dear? Where are you willing to bend and where do you stand firm?
If you don’t have a clear definition of success for yourself and for your business, as well as a plan on how to get there, it is too easy to be pulled into someone else’s vision and all of a sudden, you find yourself pursuing the latest idea or the latest fad because a customer, colleague, friend or partner said you should.
Having a clear definition of success does not mean shutting your mind and ears to others ideas and suggestions. It means weighing those ideas and suggestions and then deciding if the suggested route is right for you or not.
If you have not already done so, take some time to find your inner truths. What is really important to you? What are your personal goals and your business goals? Why are they important to you? Be prepared, you may find out some of the goals you made your own are there because you were told to want them. Once you are able to clearly hear the genuine inside, you can start charting a life journey that allows you to live your genuine.